A Sample Questionnaire

Several people responded to my previous post today about Chuck & Dolores, A Love Story, asking me what questions I sent around to my family to gather memories. Below is a list that you might find helpful. Feel free to tweak the list for anything additional you might want to learn. I added the caveat that people should feel free to skip any questions or expand on anything. Group emails are fun because everyone can see the responses which spark additional memories for the group. And while everyone may not respond, they may later tell you in person or respond in their own way. I hope this list helps you begin a conversation about memories of loved ones in your family. 

A very important added note:  My family used this list for my grandparents who died many years ago to jumpstart memories, but I urge you to ask the same type of questions - and more! - of your family living right around you.  An all too common regret people have is not getting stories from their parents, aunts, uncles and grandparents before it is too late. 

• Where and when were they born?
• Did they have any nicknames?
• Endearments they used with each other or with family?
• How would you describe their personality?
• How would you describe their physical looks?
• Do you have a favorite or vivid memory?
• How/where did they meet their spouse?
• Jobs/career?
• Organizations or clubs?
• Did they collect anything?
• Favorite hobbies/past times?
• Favorite food and/or food associations you have with them?
• Style of dress or signature piece/accessory?
• Any signature cologne/perfume?
• Favorite color/flower/song/other?
• Sayings or quips they often said?
• Any pets?
• Did they have a favorite vacation spot?
• What do you miss the most about them?
• What is the image of him/her that you carry with you?
• Do you have news clippings, obituaries, family histories, family trees, diaries, letters or other ephemera to share?
• Any other memories, details or stories you want to add?